Is My Child Ready? Understanding School Readiness, the Dibber Way

By Kelly Eyre, Quality and Pedagogy Lead, Dibber South Africa

Is my child ready? It's a question that comes quietly at first—maybe when they start saying more words, when they begin packing their own little backpack, or when you see them watching older children play just beyond their comfort zone. It's not always about school readiness. Sometimes, it's something deeper. You start to wonder: are they ready for the world beyond me? Are they ready to sit in a group, to listen, to speak up, to take turns? Will they be okay when I'm not right there?

At Dibber, we've seen it all—the nervous drop-offs, the proud moments when a child says their friend's name for the first time, the spark in their eye when they master something small but mighty, like fastening a zip or remembering a story they loved. We also know readiness isn't a tick-box. It's something you feel more than you see. It's in the way they wave goodbye with a little more confidence, or when they comfort a crying friend, even though just weeks ago, they would've cried themselves.

You don't need fancy terms or complicated checklists to know your child is growing. You'll notice the little things. Like how they start asking questions that actually wait for answers. Or how they begin to recognise their own name on a hook or a cubby. You'll hear them telling you about the colours in their drawing—not just that they drew a house, but that the roof is red because it's "hot like the sun." These are the signs that something inside them is beginning to click.

Respect, too, is something that grows. Not in a loud, demanding way, but slowly, through how we speak to our children and how we speak around them. They're always watching. They see how we greet the cashier, how we talk about neighbours or family members. They see how we apologise when we make mistakes. Children learn respect not by being told to "be respectful," but by living in a space where respect is simply part of the air they breathe.

We're not aiming for perfect children. We're not even aiming for "school-ready" children in the old-fashioned sense. We're nurturing something more meaningful: children who feel safe to be themselves, can handle a no without crumbling, and are brave enough to try again after a tough moment. Children who learn to pause before grabbing a toy, who notice that their friend's feelings matter. Children who know their voice counts—not because we told them, but because we listen when they speak.

That's why we believe gentle parenting isn't soft parenting. It's strong in the ways that matter. It sets firm, clear boundaries, but holds them with calm and warmth. When a child struggles, we don't react with frustration—we guide. We help them make sense of the moment and gently support them through it. And yes, it takes time. But so does anything that truly lasts.

The beautiful thing is, when a child feels respected, they start to mirror it. They surprise us. They look you in the eye and say, "I'm sorry." They offer their last biscuit to a friend. They raise their hand and wait. These moments don't happen because we told them what to do. They happen because we showed them the way.

And as for school? Whether your child is heading to Grade R or still a year or two away, the most important preparation you can offer isn't flashcards or early reading apps. It's confidence. It's connection. It's giving them daily chances to solve small problems, to use their hands and hearts, to make choices that matter. Even something as simple as picking their snack or choosing a story gives them a sense of self—and that's what they'll carry into the classroom more than anything else.

At Dibber, we hold their hands for a while, but our goal is to help them grow the strength to walk proudly on their own. We know it's not about being the loudest or the fastest learner—it's about building a child who believes, deep down, "I am seen. I am safe. I can do hard things."

So, if you've been wondering whether your child is ready, maybe take a moment to look at what they can do and who they are becoming. A child who notices. A child who tries. A child who is beginning to belong in their own skin. That, more than anything, means they're on their way. And that's more than enough.